Why is my girlfriend so argumentative

Only those of you brave enough, courageous enough and masculine enough, can do truly give a woman just what she wants in a way that fulfills hers most basic needs.

If you're ready to accept your mission, and you feel you're up to the challenge, just follow these steps to loving your woman unconditionally in a way that fulfills her needs and makes you always Right not that you need to be, it's just a bonus. It's in your basic nature, don't ignore it! When she pulls away, distances herself from you or becomes standoffish, what she wants is the opposite of what she's outwardly showing. She wants to know that you'll do anything to please her. She wants to know that there is nothing she can do that will lose your love.

She wants to know that if she were to leave you, be kidnapped or somehow be separated from you in extremely unlikely circumstances, that you would ride bareback on a donkey out into the middle of the Sahara desert to rescue her under threat of pain or death. Your woman is a strong creature, and when she's upset, she's not thinking "what need am I not meeting that is causing me to act this way? And even if you get that grievance is taken care of, another one will take its place.

That's what happens when you are driven by certainty. It's also what happens when you don't consciously seek your needs and leave them up to the will of your unconscious mind. So when she's upset, she's going to stay in that upset mindset until something brings her out of it, or she gets bored with it and thinks of a new way to rock the boat and meet her need for certainty and connection.

Because she'll be in the upset mindset, she's going to do everything to push you away, or distance herself from you. She might do this because of self-esteem issues, because she doesn't think you'll think it's that important, or she might build up like a big storm until she unleashes all that wild nature on top of you.

We women get to see plenty of your strong skills and powerful will when it comes to working and caring for the home, and it's not that we aren't appreciative of that warrior side of you. In fact, that warrior side of you is what attracted her to you in the first place. Yet, the reason she brought you home or went home with you is that she wanted to meet your lover.

When you first met, your lover was out in full force. Though after a while, you brought the warrior back out because you needed to think about the bills, work, kids or simply because she started getting combative with you all the time. And with any of those things on your plate and then some, it's no wonder you rely on your warrior side to take care of business.

That warrior is the part of you that kicks ass and gets things done. The only problem is, you became accustomed to the state you feel most certain in the warrior state because it's so easy for you to get there.

You knew that no matter what she did, or what happened to you, your inner warrior could come out and take care of business. Yet, your warrior just doesn't seem to have what it takes to please your woman all the time. He's too sacrificial, too tough, too focused to get inside that woman of yours and make her blossom like the tiger lily she is. Your warrior side is smart and decisive, but he also can't see what's right there in front of him—that your woman wants your lover to come out and play.

I'm just going to say couple of things. This is why women need men and they're not capable of being strong solid leaders. The proves it all. Obviously the stuff you mention sounds like a very disfunction, unstable, unreliable creature that feeds off of you energy. A real man would read between the lines and think, Hmm.. Find young women looking for the same excitement you can have fun with. Usually these women start feeling too emotional and sleep with an instant gratification guy after a breakup.

I will be that shoulder you can cry on until you find your next victim. I been thought this before and seen the worst behavior of my life. You have too keep doing for women. I have needs but I'm not crying. Shit I have needs too. This is so true and just reinforces the fact that women are intellectually inferior, but you can't live without them.. Women are creatures of emotion.. The greatest marriage advice I've ever gotten was "Just nod and agree, if she wants to argue" I completely understand why men beat their wives as well, and I don't think women should be allowed to vote.

This article reinforces all of these opinions. This idiot clearly has never been in a relationship! Way to just broad brush both Men and Women into either Venus or Mars! Is she really serious? Like as if only the Man in the relationship is always the one doing things wrong. News flash lady! It's a two way street when it comes to love! And Women are not the only ones that have needs that must be met! And Men shouldn't have to just bow down and accept all the shit you said we should be doing just because this is how Women are!

What a slap in the face to all the Women who aren't as wacky as the way you described them! Just as a Woman should ever just bow down and accept a Man like that! Stop trying to give advice you clearly are not qualified to give! When I read this and see the behavior of many women I think you cannot get away from nature regardless of the social veneers The usual retort to this is that women typically sacrifice their careers and have a mans children..

The problem with what you describe is this This whole article puts the burden of marital success on the male. It made me more like a water buffalo in the Philippines.

I provide everything, including her own emotional stability, and when I am done she will strip my carcass for the remainder. Nope rather try operate conditioning, and if she is resistant still, I'll find someone else. From a women's preceptive yeah this sounds great but the world just doesn't work this way. I think the golden rule is the best Have a date night and go out and just have some fun.

Life is too short to analyize the hell out of it. Plus this would never work because in the back of all relationships and you can't tell me I'm wrong is the "invisible scorecard"! If men exhibited the same behaviors as those ascribed to women in this article, we would be called a-holes, -and rightly so. Furthermore, women don't want an open and honest discussion about issues in a relationship, they want you to tell them you agree with them. Men see agreeing to disagree as normal behavior and nothing to get upset about, women see it as failure.

Thing is as the man indulges this behavior in this realm it becomes a way of acting out in other aspects of the relationship. Like any behavior After all we are talking about a self-indulgent want expressing itself in a certain manner.

While it may lead to the result you feel it will it can also go the other way leading into other parts of the relationship. Pushing someone's 'buttons' for a desired result and then allowing yourself to buy into it can lead down a very dicey road. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Women, especially married ones, can treat their men like crap, and the man's choices are leave and be broke or stay and live with dysfunction.

Too late for me to say "no thanks" unfortunately. Yet another artical firmly biased in favor or women. No thanks. And once again, it's on the guy to change for the gal. Can't have the girls taking stock of how nuts they make us with their bullshiesse and work to make US feel comfortable, right?

Screw all that. If you want to be "certain" impossible by the way then make a little damn effort yourself. Thank you. You've confirmed, once and for all, that I've made the right choice. I do not look at, approach, talk to, or acknowledge any woman. I certainly will never date one.

And I will die before I marry one. I'm convinced that men and women were never meant to be together. I believe everything you said in this article, as ludicrous as it is. But yes, women really are that insecure. That insecurity is a hole that can never be filled. And I'm not even going to try. Are the women in your imaginative fantasy world unconcious creatures that are dragged by men through life? Would you describe them as a lower living organism related to, for instance, bacteria?

And the men-creatures. Do they just work and build houses to serve the unconcious bacteria? This is ludicrous advice. But there is a limit for everything this, my wife my mum my sister my friends treat their husbands like a complete idiot. This concept that man needs to kneel forgive me but it is a completely joke!

Because I AM do not agree with how men should have to s to all around the house or wherever after his wife to make her happy etc. Girlfriend won't tell me whats wrong. I've been made aware to take notice of my sister in law's behaviour towards me.

Yeah thank you. I'm happy with her, just not how she is acting. K scotty. Just try to work on it and let her know your thoughts. All the best. Be patient and dont hope for an instant change. Thats why i told you to ask her for space.

You need time on yourself for a while. Those may interest you: Think im starting 2 hate the the word Relationship. Why do I feel like my husband doesn't notice me anymore? We've been married Is it wrong to kiss your cousin??? Broke up 3 months ago, she still has feelings, I didn't notice, now she's dating someone. Its been about six months since I've said a word to this girl. She hurt me The inability to trust a boyfriend who as done nothing wrong?

I keep getting blocked. What is wrong with a man that shows no affection. No emotion nothing. He is My Ex - Is that the new word for girlfriend with benefits. Girlfriend gets mad over the smallest things. Alone time is a vital part of maintaining your mental health. Even if it is just for an hour a day, you should spend some time alone with your thoughts or doing something that you enjoy. A controlling girlfriend will not allow you to have alone time for fear of what you are doing while she's not around.

Connect With One Today! Does your girlfriend only treat you well when you have done something she wanted? Being treated with respect and care, having dates, showing affection, or having trust between you should not be dependent on what you do for your girlfriend.

If your girlfriend makes you earn the kind of treatment that you deserve all the time, she is using it to control you.

A controlling girlfriend will always be picking fights and starting arguments, then trying to play the victim. The idea behind frequent arguing, even if it is over something minor that seems unimportant, is that you will get so tired of arguing all the time you will start to give in more and more until your girlfriend is controlling everything you do in an effort not to argue. In a healthy relationship, both partners must try to see each other's point of view in situations to negotiate problems and find compromises and solutions.

If your girlfriend is completely unwilling or unable to see your side of things and constantly demands that her side is the only side, that is a sign of a very controlling relationship. There can be many different reasons that girlfriends might be controlling. Psychologists have tried to understand controlling behavior in the context of romantic relationships for many years.

With the research that they have done, they have discovered a few different reasons that you might have a controlling girlfriend. Some women are controlling because they can't control themselves or their environment, while other women are controlling because they have a fear of being betrayed or abandoned. In some cases, controlling girlfriends are narcissistic, which can lead to dangerous consequences. Regardless of the underlying reason for controlling behavior, experts agree that controlling girlfriends are after the same things.

Basically, they don't feel good about themselves and others, and because of that, they want to control you so that you also feel inadequate. Before you entertain marriage with a controlling girlfriend, it is important that you set some hard boundaries about what behavior will and won't be accepted. Sit down with your girlfriend and let her know what behavior is controlling and troubling for you, and what you are willing to accept. If your girlfriend loves you and wants the relationship to move to the next level, she will be willing to make changes.

Of course, these conversations are never easy to have. It can be difficult to articulate into words how you think and feel in a way that your girlfriend can understand.

In these situations, it is a good idea for you and your girlfriend to go through relationship counseling. Sorry, thank you for reading. At the moment, your boyfriend has made the mistake of turning your sexual, romantic relationship into a neutral relationship where neither part is fully masculine or feminine. It ends up feeling like two friends who occasionally have sex when they need it, instead of a man and a woman who are falling deeper and deeper in love.

That is only possible if the right type of relationship dynamic is created and maintained. Hi, I just came across your article bc I got into a stupid argument …again.. Sounds like someone needed to vent! Unfortunately though, I get contacted here every day by guys who tell me that their girlfriend had warned them about such things, but they failed to take action and change so she ended the relationship.

So, please make sure you mention that to him also. He needs to know that you want and need a man and that he CAN be that man if he can make the changes. I just found this new lady that we dated for a day. The next day we were supposed to see each other but it happened she went for shopping with her mom and promised me that wen she came bk we will meet.

I love dis girl. You are doing The Flow backwards, my friend. It includes all the answers to all the questions that a guy needs to know to go from hello to a sexual, loving relationship with a woman. Hi Dan, i also always thought that arguments are healthy for relationships -when done right. However, lately i realized that i always seems to found something wrong with my girl.

But the mistakes just never end. I WILL find somehing wrong with her and start an argument. Am i over-corrective or something man? Is it healthy for us to always get things my way? What are ur opinion on this? Thanks mate. If you do that too much, the relationship will begin falling apart. I have been together with my girlfriend for 3 years, but she apparently has felt not respected for nearly 2 years now.

We usually have arguments over things which I consider silly, e. She thinks everyone who smokes weed is a low-life per definition even though all my friends are doing pretty well in life, i. Of course, that makes her sad and misunderstood, and has been eating her self-respect. On the other hand, I do have strong feelings about some of these issues so meekly giving in on each of them seems to go against my own core values.

Do you think we are just too different or should I just learn to suck up and start doing things just for her, even when I completely disagree with it. To make a relationship successful throughout life, both the man and the woman need to make sacrifices and compromises.

With my girlfriend, her and I have already had that chat and because of it, we are able to relax and be more accepting and willing to try new things as a way of keeping the peace and harmony in the relationship. If smoking weed is harming your relationship with her, then yes, you should reconsider whether or not you need weed or her in your life. Hi Dan so happy I came to this blog, I have a question here , I am a quiet reserved individual but my girlfriend is totally opposite she can be very outspoken argumentative and insultive without even realising it or agreeing to correction.

Now what do I do when we end up in arguments and she keeps making up things I never did and telling me my best is not enough when clearly I live my life for her. How do I approach her? Because she always want to take the lead when I am the man and I am suppose to be the one at the front..

How do I deal with her without making things harder? Now what can I do? Because I really love her and I want her to at least change her attitude and agree that she needs help. If you want to watch my advanced training on how to be the man in a relationship and deepen the love, respect and attraction a woman feels for you, my two programs for that are:.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months. The past month has been very difficult after the first 3 were amazing.

Its like we argue every few days and its almost always her fault. She starts am argument over something little and stupid and I fire back and then we just go back and forth saying mean things. And the argument gets nowhere. And she isnt good at communicating. Her words show love but her actions dont and then I keep going about how she keeps making mistakes and she gets annoyed. And then I let it go and a few days later it happens all over again. The arguments you are having go nowhere because they are unnecessary.

Think about it: If you were man enough to just smile and not be so serious about little disagreements, she would follow your lead. In a relationship, you need to love each other and help each other grow, not win arguments to prove each other wrong. Both of you will be wrong almost an equal amount of times during the relationship because no human is perfect. What you need to do is realize that you are in a relationship where neither or you is perfect, but agree that you will try to do better because you love each other.

Hi, Imy in a similar situation to most people that have commented on here. This is just one of the problems perhaps the biggest one but there are others. Some women want to wear the pants in a relationship and will enjoy it, but most women resent it and will lose feelings of respect, attraction and love for the guy as a result. Hi been reading these articles very impressed with the answers. I love her to death we broke up last year the exact same time as this time and last time was almost 3 mths she would not talk to me,this time so far is 2 weeks.

Hi… I am in a relationship.